Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Once Upon A Time….

Do you know that it’s healthy to tell stories about your childhood days experiences aside from the traditional bedtime stories (Pinocchio, Rapunzel, Peter Pan, etc.) we tell or read our children before they go to sleep at night?

I discovered it as one of the very effective ways of instilling good values in their young minds as well as a way of informing them of our family history.  My experiences in the past when I was still a kid not only interest my children but it created more bonding relationship between me and my kids.

Friday, March 25, 2011

The Role of House Rules in Parenting

Our family agreed to have a set of house rules to follow.  House helpers are included as well to abide in these policies.  My husband and I strictly implemented these regulations primarily for the sake of our kids.  Rules at home is a preparation for rules in society. The principle of proper behavior, organization, responsibility and self-discipline  should be first taught and learned at home.  The time when our kids are ready to go to school, their first step in facing the outside world, they will be ready to comply and conform with the standards.

The following are our House Rules:

  • Respect each others privacy.  Don’t just get things which are not yours.  Ask for permission if you want to borrow personal things of other members of the family. For instance: cellphones and other gadgets and things.
  • Return the things properly where you get it.
  • Maintain the cleanliness, order and care of your respective and utility areas.  Organize your things and area everyday.
  • Tidy up your toys after playing with it.  Clean up your mess!
  • Limit the Usage of Computers and other gaming gadgets like PSP, Nintendo DS, Play Station etc and Television during school days.  They are allowed to watch TV or play with their gaming gadgets after they studied their lessons and only on a limited time on weekdays.  Weekends and holidays are their best time to play or watch longer with it.
  • Show concern in economizing electricity and water usage. Yet, do not just show, act on it.
  • Observe time.  If you cannot get home by the time you were expected to be in the house, call and inform us why and your whereabouts.
  • Sleep over in other’s house is a big NO-NO, because we do it the other way. They can let their groupmates or friends sleep over in our home if there’s a need to finish a project asap.  The reason why we allow it, is for us to make sure that our kids are safe and at the same time we can meet and be acquainted with their peers and friends.
  • Make sure you do your duties at home.  We assign duties for them to learn how to do some house chores.  We ask for our kids help in doing some house chores during weekends and vacation. We cannot always rely on our house helpers to do everything for us.
  • Liars has no space in our home.  You’ve got nothing to lose if you tell the truth.  Honesty is the best policy.  I have no problems with my kids regarding this rule.  The problem usually arises with house helps. 
  • Freedom of expression is very much allowed.  Lines of communication are always kept open. If we parents are too quick to be harsh or judgmental, kids are apt to simply shut themselves off and keep quiet about their lives.  No matter how busy we are, we always find time to listen and attend to our children’s needs. We talk about anything and everything that concerns them.  The reason why they do not hide things from us.  They can lean on us anytime.
  • Violation: Teaching through Rewards and Consequences so we can guide our kids toward preferred actions by paying attention and complimenting their good choices.

Rules are not meant to limit children’s creativity or force them into some type of rigid mold, but instead are put in place to keep them safe and to guide them toward responsible behaviors as they Grow Up.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Uses of A Micro-Fiber Cloth

What cleaning rag do you use at home? Traditionally, we use cotton cloths, old face towels or hand towels as cleaning rags.  I, for one use old cotton t-shirts, and hand towels to clean up the house until I discovered this Micro-Fiber Cloth two years ago.

A Micro-Fiber cloth is made up of synthetic fibers having specific characteristics like softness, durability, absorption, electrodynamics, and filtering capabilities.  It is commonly used for apparel, upholstery, industrial filters and cleaning products.  It is Non-toxic! – just add water!  Environmentally friendly! Reusable and long lasting, no more paper towel waste.  Allergen friendly! If members of your household have allergies to cleaning products, or if you just don't like to use chemicals, the micro fiber cloths are perfect for you because all you do is add hot water or simply tap water to your cloth to clean almost everything in your home.  It magnetically attract dust, eliminates flying dust particles. It is also easy to wring out excess water due to its softness.

I bought this in Ace hardware for Php 99 only

It is available in all leading department stores and supermarkets in different sizes at a very affordable price too.

This is the one I use in cleaning eyeglass lenses, jewelries and computer screens

The following are its essential uses:
  1. It is ideal for stainless steel, counters, glass and porcelain.
  2.  It is gentle to use in cleaning eyeglass lenses and jewelries. The extremely fine micro fiber leaves zero scratches, streaks or marks.
  3. In the kitchen: Stainless steel, ceramic stove tops, sinks, cabinets, granite counter tops, microwave ovens and more.
  4. In the bathroom / laundry room: Tub, tiles, faucets, vanity tops and washing machine.
  5. Around the house: windows, mirrors, glass, furniture, and even floors.
  6. It makes car washing much easier. It polishes the inside and outside of your vehicle, using a dampened microfiber cloth. Recommended in cleaning bikes,motorcycles and sports equipment too.
  7. It is very good to use in cleaning computer screens, printers and scanners.
  8. It is best to wipe up spilled liquid on floors.

Cleaning and tidying up the house is much easier when you clean with a micro fiber cloth.  You can use it dry or damped with water or with your preferred cleaning chemical.  It saves time too, wipe once instead of repeatedly wiping away dust particles.  In my case, I do furniture dusting only twice a week J

Monday, March 21, 2011

Sunday, Fun Day

I really enjoyed the get together with the two of my best blogging friends Mhel “BlankPixels” and Eihdra “One Proud Momma”.  We met last March 13, 2011, Sunday. 

from left to right: Eihdra, Joy, Mhel

My husband and my youngest son Yahmir accompanied me.  We were the first ones to arrive in our meeting place at PureGold Supermart along Monumento, Caloocan City.  While waiting, my two boys roam around, while I was so busy answering text messages from Mhel and Eihdra.  It’s a good thing that I always bring along my mobile landline aside from my cellphone. Eihdra and I were calling each other of our whereabouts, every 10 minutes, ahaha.  Finally after 30 minutes, Mhel arrived, we do some grocery shopping first before we fetch Eihdra at the LRT Station.  We were all so happy to see each other.  You can imagine the three of us who doesn’t refrain nor stop from chatting even while walking getting back to PureGold. J

I thought Mhel’s place is near in our meeting place, well, I was wrong.  It was still a 30 minutes drive from the meeting place.  Anyway, the distance does not matter. 

Mhel’s parents were very warm and accommodating. Because it’s almost 1 pm, all of us were already starving.  Yahmir kept on bugging me that he wants to eat already (lol).  The table was already set and prepared with foods by the time we came in.  Though hungry, we still managed to do some posing for picture taking ahaha.  Nobody wanted to leave the table.  Nanay’s Beef and Seafood Kare-Kare were really very delicious, plus the Shrimps and the boneless Bangus (Milk Fish).  To add up the ripe mangoes and watermelon.  The meal was really sumptuous.

the foods! 

all smiles though hungry already, except for Yahmir ahaha

We brought Chicharon (pork cracklings),and gave the gift (a microwave oven) to Nanay and Mhel as a token of appreciation. Eihdra bought two Red Ribbon cakes that we forgot to eat ahaha.  We got so many stories and topics to talk about, that the whole afternoon was not enough (lol). 

the gift: My sincerest gratitude to Mhel for helping me out, and for the unending patience  

Nanay, even entertained us with a song then followed by Eihdra who has a good singing voice. Tatay and Noi (my husband) were busy roaming around the place, taking a look at the nearby fishpond and resort, then had a couple of brandy shots.  Guess what is Yahmir doing? As always, He is playing at the computer at Mhel’s Computer Shop, he’s the lone customer because the shop took a holiday on that special day J.  Eihdra, Mhel and I sat in their sofa the whole time while having a little drinking spree too.

Nanay rendering a song with matching dance number

Eihdra concentrating on her Taylor Swift voice alike, sing it baby!

Enjoying with Tanduay Ice 

cheers! Tatay and Noi

Three's Company

Due to Noi’s early office meeting on the next day, we cannot afford to stay much longer. At around 6pm, we packed up to end the day’s party.  On the way back to Monumento, Mhel accompanied us to guide the route/way once again.  We passed by at the famous Dolor’s Kakanin to buy some pasalubong (bring house).  We dropped off Eihdra and Mhel at the LRT station before we went home.  We came home at around 8:30 pm, tired but happy. I slept with a smile on my face J

Hey ladies! (Eihdra, thank you for the VS. To Mhel and Nanay/Tatay, thank you for hosting the get together), I am looking forward in meeting you again in the near future!

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Bringing Home The Bacon

March, 2011 is a month full of surprises for our family. My two sons reaped the fruit of their hard work.

JM, my eldest son was immediately hired for work after his graduation last May, 2010.  He became a regular employee after his six months probationary period on November 2010.  Last week of February, 2011, the company offered their employees an in-house job opening for a higher position.  He is very much interested to try his luck but having second thoughts. He asked for our opinion if he will pursue or not.  His Dad and I advised and encouraged him to go on with his endeavor. Opportunity knocks only once, and there’s nothing to lose if he doesn’t get the position he will still be employed.  He took the written exams, passed it and made it up to the final panel interview.  He got the job! From Level 3 Technical Support Representative, he was promoted to Level 5 Technical Support Representative.  On the 10th month of his employment he already got his job elevation.  One event that needs a family celebration J

Yahmir, my youngest son, garnered the Third Rank/Honors in the grade 5 elementary level for this school year.  Actually, we were not expecting it anymore, for his contender is just a point away from his total grades. We were happy for Yahmir that he was able to reach the ceiling grade to vie for honors, and that is already an achievement to be proud of.  The scope for the final exams per subject is too long and difficult, which needs a lot of memorization and studying.  Anyway, he really did his best, I know and I can feel that deep inside he is eager and aiming for the award.  I was really surprised to receive a call from his adviser informing me that I need to go to school for a formal notification about Yahmir’s achievement.  He made it!  I saw his final test results, and I was amazed that he really had perfect scores in some of his subjects and a few mistakes on the rest. He tied with his contender. The principal explained to me that they intended not to break the tie for they both deserve the honors. This good news calls for another family celebration. J

Two great triumphs in a row!  We, their parents were really so touched, gratified, and honored.  Our Congratulations to you JM and Yahmir for bringing home the bacon!  Keep it up Boys!

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

A Devotee

My Mom being a woman of strong faith, is the one who first taught me the importance of putting God in our lives.  She taught me how to pray the Holy Rosary when I was still very young.  From then on, I developed this strong devotion and faithfulness in praying.  By the time I became a mother, I also passed this on to my children. 

I was able to face life’s struggles and hardships with the aid of praying.  Knowing trials are given to us not to put us down but to mold us to become a better person, firm and stable in handling the gift of life.  Believing someone up above is watching over me and would not forsake me just as long as I keep on tracking the right path.

I am very thankful and happy to receive a Holy Rosary present from my cousin when she had her pilgrimage to Rome.  It has been years but until now I can still smell the sweet scent from its beads.  The rosary was made up of wood with a scent of a rose.  I’ve been always using it when we say the rosary at home. 
my Rosary from Rome

When I get out of the house, I have this another small rosary always inside my bag. 
my Mobile Rosary

Six years ago, my husband was hospitalized, due to bilateral kidney cysts and sudden prostate enlargement. I am too worried and scared.  I keep on praying for his immediate recovery. St. Peregrine was introduced to me by my best friend’s mother, who is on vacation here in the Philippines. It was very timely, I immediately pray the St. Peregrine’s Novena after saying the rosary.  Prayers are indeed so powerful.  My  petition through St. Peregrine’s intercession has been answered in no time. 

St Peregrine

My Marian Prayer Book given to me by my Mom

St. Michael, my favorite Guardian Angel, also a gift from my Mom

It does not matter what your religion is, for we are all believing in one God.  Acceptance and devotion in the Higher Being is what matter most.  Let us not forget to always give thanks and praise for all the blessings we are receiving each day.

Friday, March 11, 2011

Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid

There are times that some things are better left unsaid, better left unspoken. 

As we get mad, we often say things not really intended to be said. If you’re too angry to think rationally, remove yourself from the situation. Give yourself a few quiet minutes alone to cool down. The more you understand your own temper, the more you will understand why people get mad, and the better your reactions to anger will be.

Advises are great, if the person welcomes it.  We should refrain from giving unsolicited advices.  If a friend asks for it, then that is the time to share and extend your views and opinions.

In business meetings with associates or clients, keep your thoughts to yourself first. Wait for the proper time or situation where you can speak out your ideas and suggestions.  In client meetings stick to the important matters to be discussed. Be aware that you are consuming both of your precious time.

Being talkative doesn’t necessarily mean that you are being friendly.  Sometimes, too much word lessens your credibility.  More talking applies to a sales person.

It is a normal scenario in parties, celebrations and occasions that we often loose-lipped, especially with our friends around.  We became very vocal due to excitement and happiness. Yet, we have to be mindful if we are already excessively communicative. lol

Keep in mind that “less talk makes less mistakes” Just my two cents J

Wednesday, March 09, 2011

A Day of Cultural Show

Even though my husband and I are so busy as bees, we take time out as much as possible to attend our children’s school affairs and activities.  This is the time where I can talk to my kid’s Class adviser regarding their behavior, class standing and other concerns.

We enjoy watching their school programs, especially if our children are involved in such activities.  We support and encourage them in joining their extra curricular activities for them to develop their other talents.  Both of my kids are good dancers J

February 14-19, 2011, Sacred Heart Academy of Novaliches (SHAN), the school where Yahmir is studying celebrated it’s 40th year foundation anniversary.  They scheduled a week full of different activities and programs.  Aside from the fun booths, you can see plenty of commercial food booths like Jollibee, McDonalds, Pizza Hut, Dunkin Donuts and more.  They put up a roller coaster ride which the pupils and students enjoyed most.  Yahmir enjoyed so much. During the week his Dad gave him an extra monetary “baon” (allowance) to buy his preferred snacks.  He is not interested in riding the roller coaster for he and his friends are engrossed in playing beyblade

Their Cultural show for me is really a must-see program, wherein all the pupils and students are participants.  Each grade level/high school level has their own rendition of the cultural festivities which are of tourists attraction and is annually celebrated in our country, the Philippines! They perform a replica of the Santa Cruzan, Panagbenga, Pahiyas, Ati-atihan, Masskara, and Sinulog Festivals. We enjoyed the colorful and creative costumes together with their performance.  I was amazed by the talents of some high school students who played the drums very well.  Video Cameras, dslr and other digital cameras are everywhere, everyone wants to capture this special moment J

Yahmir is a participant in the Pahiyas Festival
The Santacruzan

Sinulog Festival

Masskara Festival

Sunday, March 06, 2011

Tips to Minimize Marital Conflict

Disagreements, misunderstandings, and opposition arise in every marriage or should I say at least in most marriages. 

Here are some tips on how to lessen such conflicts:

  • Work toward prompt resolution and do not let the conflict linger.  As much as possible do not sleep at night without resolving your issues.
  • Avoid harsh words that may irritate or hurt your partner’s feeling.  It will surely aggravate the situation.
  • Let bygones be bygones.  A fight over the past should not be brought out in each conflict.  Forget it.

Friday, March 04, 2011

All In One

Liquid soap is in. Different brands of liquid soaps are seen in grocery stores and supermarkets, yet which of it will you buy?  Do you know that Jergens Antibacterial Liquid Soap is an all in one soap not only for you but for your family too?  It kills germs, deodorizes and moisturizes as well. 

Years ago, my ob-gyne recommended it as an alternative to my intimate wash.  I gave it a try and satisfied with it.  I’ve been using it for years now.  During the cold weather, we use it for body wash to moisturize our skin and prevent it from drying. 

I place bottles of Jergens in the bathroom/comfort room and another one in the kitchen.  It is also very effective as a hand wash.  It gently removes stubborn odors, like garlic for instance.

It is very affordable and could last a long time, depending on the usage.  A pea size is enough for hand washing and in intimate washing.   It comes in a big bottle for refill and a small one with an easy dispersal cap.

Tuesday, March 01, 2011

The Napping Wisdom

This fast paced world is not nap friendly.  The saying “Some sleep five hours, nature requires seven, laziness nine and wickedness eleven” shows our regard for sleep.

When one is caught sleeping even during his free time, people are quick to judge him as lazy.  What many don’t realize is that a 15-minute nap can actually do wonders in our busy waking hours whatever activity we opt to do.  Napping can increase productivity for it gives us a chance to “recharge” that can result to more vigor and clarity of mind.  The way not to fall asleep on the job is to take naps when you need them. 

Sleeping 15-minutes to 2 hours in the early afternoon can reduce stress and improve alertness.
A nap is like a snack on sleep.  We do this when studying or working for long hours and this certainly helps in reinvigorating us.  There is an exquisite pleasure in giving oneself over to drowsiness.  Napping is one of the few pleasures left that are not life threatening.  One who is drowsy but tolerates his feelings usually suffers from headaches and unconsciousness.

So the next time you fall into sleep, don’t feel guilty.  Nap is one of the best things in life for free!