8 ways to deal with Teenagers

By -

As our children reach the stage of the teenage life, we have to be aware that it is not only their physical appearance that changes, but hormonal changes takes place too. This is the stage where they become most emotionally sensitive and becomes more bullheaded. 

As I have no daughter, this is how I manage to accomplish parenting a teenager, my eldest son who is now in his manhood being 22 years old.


First is Attention:  Teenagers are most likely attention seekers; let them feel that you are always there to help them in case they need your help and suggestion.  This is the time when they are vainer in choosing their clothes and attire. The period of pimple break out. Tend to their needs in minimizing those ugly acne, advice them how to take care of it or accompany him/her to a dermatologist if needed. 

Second is Encouragement: Stimulate his potentials and interests, to drive more effort and improvement.  Give him the support he needed.  Comforting words are very important at times he’s feeling down.  Encourage and teach them to be responsible for themselves and be considerate of others to function well in the society. 

Third is Engagement in Family Matters:  The stage where they cannot be classified as an adult or a child.  Let and hear them speak in giving off ideas and sharing their views in talks of family matters.  Although, they will not be the ones to decide but their insights will count a lot and will let them feel that they belong. Give or assign them a responsibility, like to take in charge of the house while you are out, look after his younger sibling, etc. If you have a family business, let them get involved, We had an ICafe business two years ago and I let my eldest son handle its operation, he was able to learn how to value and spend hard earned money.

Fourth, Set limits: It is important to set limits and boundaries in your teenager’s liberty. Be firm in implementing the house rules.  Attending parties is ok once in a while, but as I already mentioned in my previous post, sleep over to their classmate or friend’s house is a big NO!  Implementing curfew hours will make them realize the value of time management.

Fifth, Speak in a friendly tone:  Listen well and affirm positive qualities, learn to acknowledge their contributions as well as results. Know their peers and friends, so he will be able to open up discussions and tell you stories of what happened during his day over dinner.

Sixth, Do not blame: Although you are already steaming hot in anger on their disobedience, learn how to control your anger.  Try to hold yourself, listen to their reasoning, ask for explanation and clarity. Definitely, you will know if he is pulling your leg.  Let him know if you do not believe his excuses, site examples and proofs why.

Seventh, Show love, trust and respect: It is not enough to be there, it is important to let them feel that we love and care for them.  Respect their privacy, we do not have to keep on tracking their whereabouts, just remind them that we are just a call away, the primary purpose of bringing a cell phone.  Put your trust in them, they will refrain from telling lies if they feel you trust them

Eighth, Always open the channels of communication:  Frequent communication with no holds barred is one of the keys to raise up a kid favorably.  Talk about pre-marital sex, early marriage, and emphasize importance of finishing his studies and getting a stable job before compromising in a serious relationship.

Now that my eldest son is already an adult, he is ready to face his life's journey on his own. I will always be around in case he needs my advise and help. By the way, I am still not finished in dealing with a teenager for I still have my youngest son who's now a year away to teenage life.

Yahmir, my youngest son who is now 13 yrs. old



Comments

  1. SieOctober 4, 2011 at 5:10 PM

    Ms.Joy I have always looked up to you on how you really discipline your children..I agree po..the best thing about is making them feel loved even when sometimes you need to impose some rules..that it is for their own good..respecting and sometimes understanding their generational  choices of interest..not holding them too tight and not also giving them all their wants..A Mom will always be a Mom

    *passing by Ms.Joy *hugs hugs po :)*

    ReplyDelete
  2. The Pepperrific LifeOctober 8, 2011 at 9:07 AM

    Raising teenagers is really a huge challenge.  When my daughter reaches her teen years, I hope I can put your tips to good use :).  I'm a little apprehensive, as I am a single mom, and I have to raise her alone.  I hope things work out.  Thanks for your tips :)

    ReplyDelete
  3. Kimberly MurrayAugust 8, 2013 at 12:13 AM

    My oldest is 23 & youngest is 6. Nice to hear your insight as it's always good to freshen up the skillset & gain new perspectives too :)

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Cleaning 101: Declogging drains

By -
Image
Clogged drains are typically easy to fix, as we can unclog it physically, chemically or a combination of both.   However, it usually depends on the nature and extent of the problem so before calling on an experience plumber in parramatta , here are some tips that you may try to uncork that clog. The kitchen sink is most often clogged with fats, grease and oils, unplug or remove the strainer, as grease accumulate around the strainer in the sink. Remove and wash away anything that has collected around it. You may also use liquid sosa or liquid lye, just pour it straight then wait for 10 minutes before flushing it with tap water.   Better yet pour in the chemical at night before going to sleep when nobody will use the kitchen sink anymore. Flush it with water the next morning.
click here to read more >>

6 Simple Ways to Save Money at Home

By -
Image
  With the economy being what it is, people are more conscious about their expenses. The last thing you want to be doing is spending money on things that are not essential. There are simple ways to save money at home, which can cut down your bills significantly. Use energy-efficient appliances If possible, buy energy-efficient appliances such as washing machines and dryers that have lower water and energy consumption levels. These will help save energy and thus money over time because they consume less electricity than their non-efficient counterparts do. Consider replacing your old refrigerator with an energy-efficient refrigerator. You may not be aware of the fact that your fridge is one of the biggest consumers of power in your home. An inefficient refrigerator can use up to 300 kWh per year, which is more than 10% of the total household energy bill. So, it is important to get an efficient one that uses less electricity and saves you money on your electricity bill. Use en
click here to read more >>

Mother, Blogger

By -
As I already mentioned in my first article, I am a full-time housewife, tending to the daily house chores. Though I have my helper with me, I personally tend to my husband and children's needs. Being in the house all day long makes me bored to the max! It's a good thing, I love to read, and when I'm done reading, I go online and check my accounts in Facebook, Twitter,and email. I started creating my own blog a year ago, but due to my hectic schedule being an ICafe Owner at the same time due to my health problems I wasn't able to pursue it. Being a mother doesn't mean you cannot be a blogger. I am not a professional writer, but I can express my opinions and ideas in my own way and style of writing. I will be writing articles, not only for the mothers' interest but for the whole family as well. May you find my articles worth reading. You may expect for a weekly update on this site.
click here to read more >>